Over a year ago, we got a call from the hospital that my 5-year-old cousin, Kingston, had fallen out of a two-story window and his mom needed help. Five months after he arrived, I remember sitting in disbelief, thinking this isn’t what I signed up for. This was supposed to be temporary. He was non-verbal, […]

David Brown is a Paralympic Gold medalist who has set world records in the 100m dash. He’s been completely blind since he was 13 years old. Can you imagine running full speed and not being able to see?  The way David has made a living “running blind” is his guide, Jerome Avery.  Jerome helps David […]

What could be more important than living a fulfilled and peaceful life?​​Many times, we think our current life dictates our future. ​ ​ ​​We give up on what we really want out of life. ​ ​​We lose sight of our dreams and goals making us feel trapped.​​Meet Damien Lillard, a NBA superstar. He wasn’t heavily […]

I got a text from a prospective client on Friday.  “Hi Aerica! I pray all is well. It’s been a couple of months, things have been crazy and continue to deteriorate….But I need it (she’s referring to my program) desperately! If you have some time today, please give me a call.” There was a lot more included […]

Remember when you first fell in love? Time just seemed to fly by. You could spend hours talking about nothing. You were always thinking about how you could make it better. You would interact with enjoyment and ease. If you weren’t careful, you would obsess over the relationship. You would daydream about him often. It […]

I went back and forth on whether to share this because it’s vulnerable, but I know it can help someone. ​ ​ ​ ​Acceptance of the good things in life is always super easy. Acceptance of the not so wonderful things is more difficult. ​ ​ ​ ​ True acceptance helps you become your best […]

As I gasp for air, I’m thinking, how did this happen? At night when the episodes are more intense, I’m secretly concerned that I will end up in the hospital or maybe ICU. My mind is racing. I practice regular self-care this shouldn’t be happening. Then it hit me. I haven’t been practicing self-care at all. For […]

On the way back home from dropping my bonus baby off at therapy school, I had a moment of anger. ​ ​ While I was legally getting into the left turning lane, a lady blew her horn at me. She was illegally driving down the median and blew at me? ​ How dare she? She was […]

Janet Jackson (my husband’s favorite childhood singer) had a hit song in the late ’80s. Control, to get what I want Control, never gonna stop Control, now I’m all grown up For many decades, this was apparently my motto.  My Type-A, perfectionist brain craved control. I loved the feeling of safety control brought me however, I […]

In life we are quick to say, “I love myself. I’m worth it!” However, our actions don’t line up with our talk. Your marriage has probably been struggling for a while but it looks great. So you settle for a marriage that looks amazing on the outside but feels empty on the inside. You will […]

Does every day seem like the same “stuff” different day?​ ​ Wake up, complete daily tasks, go to sleep, wake up, complete daily tasks, go to sleep, rinse then repeat.​ ​ You’re just moving through life but going nowhere…​ ​ Your marriage is becoming more task oriented, more transactional.​ ​ *Can you pick up the clothes from […]

When an air traffic controller determines that the original flight plan is no longer viable due to whatever reason they don’t permanently change the destination, they just change their approach. Current Destination: Better Marriage Current Approach: Changing Him Fortunately, you are the pilot, air traffic controller, and passenger of your life. You are in full control. […]